This past weekend was Easter. We spent the day relaxing with the boys and then headed over to my sister’s house for dinner. Monique and her husband have a 10 month old daughter and true to form she hadn’t gone down for her nap and was in need of some attention right about the time Monique was trying to finish dinner and get everything on the table. It wasn’t a big deal. I got to play with my niece, Monique finished dinner and we all had a great time.
The next day, Monique left me a message apologizing that everything wasn’t perfect at dinner.
What the heck is perfect? The food was good, we had a great time, who cares if Taylor missed a nap and needed some extra snuggles?
It made me laugh and quite honestly, all I could think was ~ “Good luck with that, you are now a parent ~ nothing will ever be perfect again”!
When the boys were babies I can’t tell you how many times I looked down in a meeting only to realize that one of them had slimed my shoulder with drool or snot or who knows what else.
I have spent evenings trying to get them to leave me alone so that I can cook a fancy dinner only have them sit down and refuse to eat it.
I will never be the mom with the Martha Stewart birthday parties that include intricate home made cakes and goodies and hand crafted party favors.
Perfect is over rated!!!!
To me one of the best things about being a parent is realizing this and letting it go. Life is about connecting with people, having fun and being present in the moment. Admittedly it helps to have a sense of humor, because sometimes when it falls apart all you can do is laugh. No one cares about weather or not you can serve a 5 course meal with a baby on your hip. If you can, rock on, but the truth is they came to see you. So take the pressure off, serve some pizza, pour some wine and just enjoy yourself.