~ The weather had been better
~ They hadn’t been late
~ The service was better
~ They had reacted differently
~ They had worked harder
Notice that all of these statements involve it being someone or something else’s fault? My yoga instructor talked about this yesterday and it is was definitely a light bulb moment! This happens to me all of the time. When something doesn’t go the way that I want it to, I instantly start listing off all of the things that others could have done to make it go better ~ for me.
In all honesty, I think this reaction is normal. It seems to be how we are hard wired as humans, but it’s important to take the next step in the blame game. We are responsible for our own happiness and reality. Yes, things happen outside of our control, but in the end, we decide how we react to them. I know that sounds trite, but it is true and as they say, the truth will set you free.
Really everything is just a story that we tell ourselves, so the next time something doesn’t work out, try telling a different story and see what you can do to create a different outcome.