When Something Throws You For a Loop, Take Time For This:

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I had an orthodontist appointment yesterday that got me really spun out. I have been having issues with my jaw for a number of years now and finally decided to get it checked out.  The findings are that my joint is deteriorating and, while it can be remedied, it is something that is fairly serious and involves a 4 year treatment plan to properly address it.I have always been incredibly healthy and am not someone who goes to the doctor for much so all of this really threw me for a loop. In fact, that was actually my second consultation. The first one freaked me out so much that I stopped listening half way through.When things like this happen, it isn’t so much about what is going on and what the treatment is, it’s the emotion attached to it.  How could something be wrong with me?  Did I do something to cause this?  What if the treatment doesn’t work?  What if my strategy of believing that everything will work out okay doesn’t work this time?Needless to say, I had myself pretty stressed out by the end of the day (something that is contributing to my jaw issue) and was starting to withdraw from those around me as I took time to process.  In the midst of this, I realized that I had choices to make about how I am going to respond to this.The first thing I did last night was journal my thoughts. Something about writing things down helps me to gain clarity and see the path forward more clearly. It also helps me to see things from different perspectives.  What I realized is that I have been feeling very over scheduled lately and like I am not in control of what is going around me.  What I realized is that it is also how my clients feel when I am coaching an agent about how to make changes in their business so that they can stop struggling.  There is always that moment of knowing things are not right, knowing that you need to make choices and changes in order to achieve a different result, but also feeling scared or powerless to do so.This morning I woke up and went for a walk, enjoying the cool morning air and focusing in on a sense of freedom while I sat by the lake for a few minutes.  The gentle movement of the water helped to calm my spirit.  What I realized is that there is a lot going on in my life, most of it by design, but it is all going on around me and not attached to me.  I am the calm center of the storm and I have all of the freedom that I need right here and now to live the life I want and move forward.Resist the urge to withdraw.  It is normal to struggle….we all do at various points in our lives. The key is to keep moving forward, even in the smallest amounts, and to stay engaged with those around us.  As it worked out, I was scheduled to teach a class right after my appointment yesterday and it was the best thing that could have happened.  Rather than spending the entire day freaked out, I was able to engage with those around me in a meaningful way, and do something that inspires me.Have you ever felt this way?  Maybe this is how you feel right now.  If so, I highly encourage you to join us for one or both of our upcoming workshops to connect with others, learn new ways to do your business and take that next step forward towards success.  Click HERE for more information.

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  1. Meghan Kerner on August 30, 2012 at 11:03 pm

    Hi Nicole! This really strikes a chord with me this week — I went to the dentist and was diagnosed with 12 cavities! Pre-pregnancy 18 months ago, there were 0 cavities and my teeth were perfect. I think it is a nutritional deficiency from pregnancy and breastfeeding and before I allow them to drill and fill those 12 cavities, I am putting myself on a nutritional regimen via the Westin A Price foundation. I also just bought this book: Cure Tooth Decay: Heal and Prevent Cavities with Nutrition by Ramiel Nagel. Some people may think it is crazy to try to heal my teeth with nutrition, but I figure I have nothing to lose (and I may save $4000 on fillings)…anyway, some food for thought. I hope you feel better! xo

  2. Nicole on August 30, 2012 at 11:15 pm

    Wow Megan! My fingers are crossed that your plan works. I am a big believer in alternative methods as well and will definitely be exploring some myself.

    Right now for me it’s time to feel into everything to get comfortable with the next steps.

    Have fun with your little one!

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