When Envy Is Good

Ever heard the term Green with Envy?

We talk about envy like it’s a bad thing, but channeled correctly, it can be a great benefit.

Growth is about experiencing new things, but to experience them, you first need to know about them and think “that sounds like fun I’d like to do / be / have that”.

Enter envy. Someone else has something cool and you want it to.

Whether it serves as motivation or sends you to the dark side is up to you.

Case in point, I love to travel. Admittedly some of my travel ideas come from social media. As I watch friends travel I think “that looks like fun, I’m adding that to our list”. In that moment, I’m happy for them, grateful for the new idea and excited about the expanded possibilities of where to go next.

That is positive envy.

Negative envy would be “well that’s just great for them, but we can’t travel like that. We don’t have the time, money, etc.”. Your jealousy might not ever affect them, but it will undoubtably affect you. No one wants to be around someone who is cranky.

The same is true for your business.

When you see another agent’s success do you go do the negative envy space and think: it might work for them, but it won’t for you? Does seeing someone else’s success make you feel small?

Or are you genuinely happy for them, and use it as a new benchmark that you can have fun reaching for?

After all, if they can do it, so can you. Maybe even better and faster than they did.

The other side of envy is justification. We need to validate why we feel the way we do. Know that both are choices. You can justify, rationalize, and support any view point you want. Just make sure it’s one that supports your goals.

To you success!

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