You Don’t Attract What You Want, You Attract What You Are
If you are anything like me, you have done more than a couple of goal setting exercises only to end up in the exact same spot as you were before.
Frustrating!
It wasn’t from a lack of effort, but something didn’t click, and while it may not have been an epic failure, it wasn’t exactly the amazing success that you were planning for.
So what is the key to why it works sometimes and not others or for some people and not others?
The secret sauce is that you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.
Most specifically, you attract what you vibrate.
The Universe responds to energy.
Here’s an example: Have you ever asked someone how they are doing, and had them respond “fine” or even “great”, but you can tell that they are far from it. And then they go on to have a perfectly average or even miserable day? It’s because the Universe matched up with their vibration, not their words.
It’s the same as when you set a goal lets say to make $250,000. You might even do your affirmations, commit to making your calls and all sorts of other things. But if internally you are having thoughts of: “jeez, I hope this works,” or “who am I to do this?” That is exactly what you will get in return. My guess is that you will have some initial success, and then about ½ or ¾ of the way to your goal the wheels will come off and you can’t figure out why.
The Universe is designed to help and support your vibration. They want you to succeed, but they can only work off the information that you give them.
So help them out.
Practice each day not just seeing your goals, but feeling them. This can happen in 5 minutes. It might be the hardest 5 minutes to find in your day, but it worth more than an hour of “working” on something that you don’t ultimately believe in or have confidence in your self to accomplish.
The trick with this is to stay out of the how. Don’t worry about “how” it will show up, although I know that’s what you are dying to figure out. Just focus on how you want it to look in the end.
The Universe will take care of the HOW often much better than you ever could have imagined.
To Your Success!
Nicole
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