Change The Narrative

You don’t have to be a creative writing expert to be a great story teller. The reality is that we tell ourselves stories all day long.

Stories about why our business is where it is / or isn’t
Stories about why a relationship is the way it is
Stories about what we can / or can’t accomplish
Stories about what our clients think about us, or the transaction

We tell ourselves these stories over and over again, convinced they are the truth and that there isn’t anything that can be done about them.

Yet that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Our story is our perspective on a situation, and there is always more than one way to view things. Especially when there are other people involved. I can pretty much guarantee, that their story isn’t the same as yours.

I was feeling pretty blah about the holidays. Shopping and gift giving can be overwhelming for me. What do I get? Will they like it? Did I spend too much money, or not enough?

So I decided to change my story.

2 of my favorite things are: experiences vs stuff and supporting local businesses.

I hosted a wonderful event for some amazing women that I wanted to thank where we had lunch, set intentions and painted rock mandalas led by my good friend Mayume of Guided Gatherings. It was something unique, and we all had a great time enjoying being together.

Then I spent the afternoon at Provocatrix Designs in Snoqualmie shopping for fun gifts. It was the most fun I’ve had in a while. Chatting with Erica, the owner, finding beautiful gifts, and supporting a truly amazing business was exactly what I needed.

It snapped me right out of my funk and I’ve been smiling ever since.

I changed my story from one of overwhelm to one of joy and a chance to connect with and support others.

What stories have you been telling yourself that no longer serve you?

Hint: the more TRUE it feels, meaning the more powerless you feel to change it – those are the ones that are worthy of your attention. The good thing is that once you make the decision to open up to another story, it shifts pretty quickly.

So whatever story reel is working in your head, and is stressing you out – start asking:

  • What if this were different?
  • What if their actions aren’t about me, but something else that’s bothering them?
  • What if I could figure it out?
  • What if I say no, or decide to let it go?
  • What if I speak up?
  • What if I let go of the past and make today a new day?

To your success!

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