Do You Have a Comparison Hang Over?

The secret

I hope that you are crazy busy right now selling more homes than you ever have before. But on the off chance you’re not, this one’s for you.

If you are like me, you track the market every day and are connected with lots of agents on social media. Some because you are friends, and others for ‘market research’. Both of which make sense, until you hit a slow patch in your own business. Then all of those beautiful posts can start feeling like everyone else is crushing it and you are not.

Pretty soon friendly support and market research and lead to one heck of a comparison hang over.

If that ever happens to you, here are some tips to get you through.

Know that everyone has cycles in their business. Mine tend to run the opposite of everyone else’s. So when they are busy I am slow and vice versa. But at the end of the year it’s all good. Focus on the long game vs today.

As my niece would say: Less screen time, more people time. Stop scrolling social media and staring at a screen. Call a client, go for a walk with a friend, preview homes – anything that you can do put your body in motion and interacting with other people.

Ramp up your affirmations and gratitude journaling. What you focus on expands. Train your mind to look for evidence that it’s all working out perfectly. The more you look for it, the more evidence you will find.

More than anything, stay the course. Real estate is a contact sport. The more time you spend connecting vs hibernating, the closer you will be to another hot streak.

To your success!
Nicole

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