Gary and I celebrated our 20th Anniversary last week. Woohoo! It has been a great adventure, and I can’t wait to see what the next 20+ years bring.
Milestones are great for reflecting. We’ve been through so many stages of life together. From being young and getting started in our careers, having kids, getting involved with the community, and finding out what makes us tick. It’s been an amazing time, but you don’t get to 20 years without a few lessons learned along the way.
Here’s what 20 years of marriage has taught me:
- Hold on to the good moments. The smiles, the laughter, the love. Those are the ones worth remembering, and when I focus on those, everything gets better.
- Let the bad stuff go. Talk about it, deal with it, learn the lesson, and then move on.
- Build your tribe. When I was growing up, my mom told me that ‘we don’t talk about the family outside of the family’. I honestly believe it’s one of the reasons my parents got divorced. They never got help with their relationship. They didn’t have friends they could confide in and find out their challenges are the same as everyone else’s. Meaning they were not unique and insurmountable, and that with some different perspectives they could be worked through. My tribe means a lot to me. Just make sure you pick the positive ones..
- Relationships evolve, that’s to be expected, especially when you have kids, but make sure you are in control of how they evolve.
- Recommit every day.
At the risk of sounding corny, these lessons seem to be pretty applicable to real estate too. Either way, hopefully they help, no matter where you apply them.
To your success!