When 1 + 1 = 1,000,000 Try This Combo For The Win
When I was younger, I was laser focused on my goals. You couldn’t knock me off track if you tried.
And then something changed.
Looking back, I could ‘blame’ it on getting married and starting a family, saying they pulled my focus.
But I KNOW that isn’t entirely true.
I love Gary and my boys with my WHOLE heart. It makes me happy to support and be there for them.
But somewhere between being laser focused on my goals and supporting others, I put myself on hold.
Can you relate?
I kept thinking, ‘my goals can wait’.
I started acting as if my desires didn’t matter as much as being there for my family .
Unknowingly (or maybe somewhere deep down I did know) I got stuck in an either / or cycle that holds so many of us from fulfilling our true potential.
For the record, nobody ever asked me to put myself second or said that what I wanted didn’t matter.
I thought I was doing the ‘right thing’ by just putting things on hold until I got through ‘this phase’.
It turns out ‘this phase’ can turn into forever if you aren’t careful.
It didn’t take long to figure out my plan to wait on my goals was not going to work.
I realized that aside from being cranky, I was not being a good example for my boys.
For the record, my business was super successful the whole time. So it’s not like I wasn’t making great money and running a successful real estate practice.
But if I’m being really honest, I was just going through the motions.
I was tired and exhausted and not shining my light in the way I knew I was meant to do.
If you’re nodding right now, then please know you’re not alone.
Whatever your version of this story is, you were doing the best you knew to do.
Usually when we get to this phase of life (please tell me I’m not the only one who’s been here) they tell us time management is the key. If you can just learn how to prioritize and time block all will be well.
Or spend time on what matters to you?
And where are those hours supposed to come from?
Do what lights you up. What does that even mean and when was the last time we even felt lit up??????
All of this sounds good in theory, but really it’s just adding more to your never-ending to-do list.
You need to harness your energy to:
- Simplify your life.
- Determine the right timing for tasks.
- Identify unnecessary actions.
- Become the best version of yourself.
Shifts that are easy, powerful, AND doable when you know how to work with your energy.
It’s NOT about doing MORE. When you learn to use your energy, you may end up doing a lot LESS!!! Sounds amazing, right?
When we feel like our personal desires don’t matter, we disconnect from our energy. Which causes us to lose focus and makes everything harder.
Once you reconnect with your energy, you can learn how to shift it from being scattered to a powerful force that you can direct to create all that you desire.
YOU DESERVE to live an amazing life.
Your doing so not only serves you, it benefits everyone around you. Especially your children.
What if they believed that they were worthy from the start and had a framework to lean into their own unique goals and desires? Isn’t that the best gift you could ever give them?
If you are ready to be that beautiful example, I have an invitation for you.
Join us for this round of Everyday Energy to connect with your true goals and desires, and remove the road blocks that are holding you back. AND join myself and Diane Terry for Business Planning to map out the path to take your ideas and make them a reality.
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To your success!
Nicole
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