Spoiler Alert: You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out
As I child I used to think: Being an adult must be great, they always know what to do and say.
I’ve been an adult for a while now, and – I still don’t always know what to do or say.
Doubt, fear, and uncertainty pop up on a regular basis. For years I assumed this meant the timing wasn’t right and I needed to wait until I felt certain, confident and clear before taking action. There are so many things I didn’t follow through on because of this.
Yet when I look at my successes, and I’ve been fortunate to have many of them, they all have 3 things in common:
- I didn’t have a crystal clear vision with all the answers in the beginning
- I had a lot of self doubt, fear and uncertainty
- I had a coach
For me at least, all of these are part of the process. Do I wish that I woke up every day beaming with confidence and with a crystal clear path? Of course. And some days I do. But there are just as many days where the vision is murky and the confidence level is more of an ‘I hope I can do this’ level.
I have found that if I commit to taking a step forward each day, things come together. The vision will evolve, it’s meant to. So don’t worry about having it all figured out. You only need to know the next step, which will lead you to the one after that, and so on.
Self doubt, fear and uncertainty show up because you are trying something new. They are a normal part of the process. The next time they pop up – try acknowledging them, thanking them for the reminder that you are on the right path, and then let them go.
When you do these and combine them with having a coach or being part of a mastermind group, that’s when the magic happens. It’s easier to take the action, quiet the doubts and trust the process. If I was struggling in my business right now, and I wasn’t already working with a coach or in a mastermind group – I would spend money there before I would spend it on marketing. That is how big of a difference I think it makes.
More than anything, if you are experiencing any of this. Know that you are not alone. It’s part of the process. You’ve got this.
To your success!
Nicole
** If you are ready for a coach or a mastermind, hit reply and let me know. Whether we work together or not, I would love to help you find the right fit.
Signup to receive Nicole's blog posts via email weekly:
Other Posts
Collaboration Over Competition, This Is Your Chance To Learn From The Best
What if you could stop over thinking how to run your business? What if you knew exactly what other agents do to attract clients? This is your chance! Season 2 of Secrets of Attracting Clients starts January 27th and I’m super excited for this years line up! We have 12 amazing sessions, all with ideas…
Read More
How Lowering Your Bar Can Help You Reach Your Goals
January holds a special mix of big dreams and deep insecurity for a lot of agents. If you find yourself toggling between the two – know that you’re not alone. We usually associate big dreams with big actions. So we make long to do lists as proof of our commitment to increasing our income. Often…
Read More
Success Secret: Do Less of What You Like and More of What You Love
This post was inspired by my good friend Valerie Garcia. She shared this note in her newsletter this week: Love by Jon Acuff Want a simle goal you can accomplish in 2025? Do less of what you like and more of what you love. I like watching Netflix. I love holding a book I’ve written…
Read More
Is How You’re Working Really Working For You?
Welcome to 2025! I love New Years Day – the feeling of a fresh slate, a world of possibilities available with 365 beautiful days ahead to create magic. As we embark on a new year, set goals and make plans here’s one question that’s worthy of pondering: Is how your working really working for you?…
Read More
Do All Things With Great Love
Do All Things With Great Love As we head into next week with Christmas and Hanukkah this feels like the perfect reminder. Whether you celebrate the holidays or not, next week can be a bit much. It’s easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of what you ‘should do’ or ‘have to do’. Before…
Read More
Wondering about 2025? Relax, You Already Have Clients Ready To Go, I’ll Show You Where To Find Them
Spoiler alert, you already have clients ready to go for 2025 – but you might not realize it yet. Right about now agents start looking to the new year wondering: Where will your clients come from? Can you do this again? What new marketing plans do you need? How much will they cost? Before you…
Read More
The Real Reason We Started Experiences vs Stuff for the Holidays
We’ve been doing experiences vs stuff with the boys for years. This year we are in Palm Springs loving the sunshine. It’s a tradition we all look forward to. We’ve gone all sorts of places: Maui, Boston, New York, Costa Rica, and Ireland just to name a few. On the last night, we pick a…
Read More
Action Plan vs Business Plan
Is it just me, or does business planning overwhelm you? I’ve tried doing a traditional plan over the years. One where you: Set an income goal Figure out your average price point and income Use that to calculate the number of sales required Break it down to how many referrals to convert to appointments to…
Read More
A Common Misconception About Mindset and Energy Work…
It doesn’t mean you’re happy all the time. Pretending that ‘it’s all good’ when it’s not isn’t helpful. I’ve been doing a lot of teaching around this in my masterminds lately, and it really hit home for a lot of people this week. Emotions are meant to be felt – all of them. They are…
Read More
The #1 Question Agents Don’t Ask, But Should
If I told you one question could lead to happier clients, and more sleep for you would you add it to your conversations? I’ve coached hundreds of agents, and every time I bring up this one question it ends up in a blank stare followed by – I never thought to ask that. Ready for…
Read More