It’s Okay For Things To Be Different
I often find myself comparing things.
I compare my business this year to years past.
I compare my health and fitness to where I was 10 years ago.
I compare how I show up and experience different life events.
On the one hand – it makes perfect sense. Our brains crave predictability. It calms our nervous system. It gives us a framework from which to show up.
But there is one big thing comparison does that isn’t helpful.
It takes us out of being present. And when we aren’t present, we miss the magic.
My mom passed away almost 3 weeks ago.
My relationship with her was very different than mine with my Dad. She meant well, but her delivery was often harsh and judgmental. It created a lot of strain and distance between us.
There were many times where I’m not sure I would have shown up at the end.
I was caught in a loop of comparing current experiences with our past conversations.
In the end, I was able to let go of the comparison and let things be different. I was able to see what caused her to act the way she did. I was able to love her, and be grateful for all the gifts she gave me.
I never thought I would say this, but I miss her. It makes me happy when I bake cookies for the boys as a way to show them love, and realize, she used to do the same for me. It feels good to carry on the tradition, and know I’m honoring her every time I bake a batch.
It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as losing a loved one to make us see things differently.
Whether it’s your business, or your personal life – where are you showing up with pre conceived ideas about how something will go? Can you let go of those just a little bit and be open to things being different?
The Universe might surprise you in the very best way.
To your success!
Nicole
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