The Stories We Tell Ourselves
We all have stories we tell ourselves. Stories that affect our actions and decisions.
We view them as facts, but in reality – they are just a story that we chose to believe.
I’ve had a lot of conversations about stories this week and how our stories determine what shows up in our lives. And about how it’s time to change some of them.
Some of my stories have been: That people don’t want to hear what I have to say. Stories about not being good enough or worthy.
I realized how much I have held myself back – all because of a story.
But here’s the thing with stories – we can change them. And no matter how real they might seem, my guess is that you also have evidence to the contrary.
You can literally change your life by choosing to tell a different story.
It’s not easy, but if you have some stories that no longer serve you, here are some things that have worked for me:
- Acknowledge that you internalized the story that no longer works for you
- Ask yourself how you would like things to be different
- Choose a different story that supports that
- Take an action based on your new story
Each time I write a blog post, teach a class, or speak on a stage it’s an opportunity to re-write my story. And you know what? What started off as terrifying, went to nerve racking then to anxious to a calm excitement.
The biggest difference? The more I showed up as me, the easier it got.
Are there some people who don’t want to hear what I have to say? Of course. But that holds true for all of us. Those aren’t my people and that’s not where I focus my energy anymore.
What’s a story that you need to re-tell?
To your success!
Nicole
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