What To Do When Everyone Else Is Winning – And You Aren’t
First, I’d say – you’re being way too hard on yourself. It’s more likely that you’ve had wins, and missed them.
This came up in my Proof It’s Working (PIW) group this week.
What do you do when it feels like nothing is working, and you don’t see any wins?
Step 1: Redefine what Proof It’s Working means
We tend to focus on the obvious wins:
- A referral
- A listing going under contract
- A closing
Those count, but they are far from the only proof.
There are dozens of smaller moments that lead up to the big wins that matter just as much.
- Being fully present in a conversation and hearing what the other person has to say
- The ability to take time off, and trust that your business will be okay
- Enjoying the beauty of the world around you – the full moon earlier this week was gorgeous!
- A good nights sleep that leaves you ready for the day
- The contractors that show up on time
- The big repair that turns out to be minor
These moments are part of the path to success.
They don’t have to be directly related to business or income to count. In fact, most of your Proof It’s Working moments are likely to show up outside of business. Especially when you first start this process.
Step 2: Acknowledge them
I guarantee there are more things working in your life than you realize. However, if you don’t pause to notice them, your brain will skip right past it.
It’s normal, our brains are wired to scan for problems, not progress.
The good news is, that you can train your brain to look for progress first. And it’s easier than you might think.
Taking even a few moments to acknowledge the moment helps to rewire your brain. Bonus points if you write them down.
Step 3: Share them
Sharing your Proof It’s Working moments gives them power and increases their impact.
I’ve seen it many times in the group. Someone doesn’t feel they have anything to share, and while listening to someone else, they realize they had overlooked their wins.
When you share:
- Your confidence grows
- Your awareness increases
- Momentum builds
- Action becomes easier
- You become a magnet for what you want
- You move from hoping things will work out to trusting they will
Nancy and I talked about what it takes to move from hope to trust on this week’s podcast.
And if you’re ready to amplify your Proof It’s Working moments and find the ones you’ve been missing – round 2 of our group starts February 16th. Here’s the link to check it out and join the fun.
To your success!
Nicole
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