What’s Your Pivot Word?

You Can Change the plan reminder on a notice board

You Can Change the plan reminder on a notice boardI’ve been listening to The Power, by Rhonda Byrne, lately.

It’s a fantastic book about living your life through love, the stories we tell ourselves and that what we attract what we think about. One of my favorite quotes from the book is:

Life isn’t happening to you, it’s responding to you.

I’ve heard this before, but for some reason new lights bulbs went off this time.

I’ve noticed lately how many of my “stories” are not helpful. Especially when it comes to other people. Things like: They’ll never figure it out / They will always say unkind things.

Clearly it’s time to change my story.

Sounds easy enough. But what about when your story involves another person? I noticed that I was hanging on to my stories much tighter than I realized. After all, in my story someone is clearly right and someone is clearly wrong. If I change the story does it make them less wrong? Does it mean that it’s not okay for me to be hurt or upset? If the world is responding to me, does that make it my fault? Can’t I be angry one more day and try again tomorrow? I’m not sure that I’m ready to let them off the hook just yet.

Enter the pivot word.

I was finding that for some things, changing my story was too difficult. I needed a new way to open things up and change the energy. Something else Rhonda mentions is that the world is about contrast. The Universe intentionally provides contrast so that we can more clearly determine what it is we want.

Now, when I feel myself spiraling in the negativity vortex or holding on to a story because it’s “just the way it is” I use my pivot word:


For some reason it instantly releases everything. It’s not about the other person or situation, it’s just about figuring out what I really want. From there, I can easily tell a new story.

Start paying attention to your stories. Are they working for you? Is it easy for you to tell a new story or are you holding on a bit too tight? If so, find your own pivot word.

One you find your word, I’d love to know what it is. Hit reply, or leave a comment and let me know.

To your success!


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