Take Time To Build Your Tribe
My theme for 2023 is leaning into and loving my tribe, and being grateful for those that are part of it.
It started with my birthday last month. The years don’t get me, but the decades definitely do. There is always something that comes up and surprises me. This time it’s been all about how much I value my girlfriends. Yes, we laugh, have fun, shop and drink wine together. But we also talk about real stuff. Sometimes the hard things that you are afraid to share. Personal things, relationships, raw situations and emotions. And in sharing all of it, we show up as our truest selves.
There is vulnerability and power in being seen by another.
I realized this year how much I used to carry that around inside and not share it with anyone, because I was afraid of judgement, or that I would be seen as less than.
And yet when you lean in, you realize you aren’t the only one. Everyone has something that they are going through. None of us are unique in that sense.
And when someone shows up for you and listens, doesn’t judge and offers just the right mix of understanding, support, encouragement, love and truth – it makes a difference.
I am so grateful to those that show up for me, and honored to be able to show up for them.
The opportunity to show up for each other happened again this week. This time for work. I attended a real estate conference, Genuine Hustle, and got to hang out with my work tribe for a few days.
I’ll be honest, I had pretty much stopped going to conferences – until Genuine Hustle came along. Traditionally they are all about posturing and competition. Who can brag the most about their sales volume, etc. There is minimal connection and virtually no collaboration.
But Genuine Hustle is different. Everyone is real and honest, open to sharing and willing to learn. I was at their happy hour one night filled with gratitude that – these are my people. This is my tribe. THIS is where I want to invest my time. Not just in learning about real estate, but in getting to know people as individuals.
Because we all have ups and downs, and moments of wondering how this whole thing is going to turn out. And in being there for each other we all get through.
And so I encourage you to ask youself:
Who is part of your tribe? How can you be there for them?
Thank you for being part of my tribe. Know that you mean the world to me.
To your success!
Nicole
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